You Are The Decision Maker For Your Life

“Life is the sum of all your choices.” – Albert Camus

You know, we can have the most enlightened beliefs about life and how life works but they can remain pretty much theoretical until we have an opportunity to practice our beliefs. [YAY Contrast?]

For example, I have for many years been aware of the power of choice. I have reminded myself on a daily basis that I get to choose. I have frequently tried to convince clients that they too get to choose. Perhaps this blog post will remind you of the awesome power of choice you possess.

Why is that important? Because we create our own reality through the choices we make.

So, the day before Thanksgiving 2015 I had an opportunity to take this understanding to a deeper level. My elderly mother had an accident at home and ended up spending a week in the hospital followed by six weeks in a rehab facility. I am her primary caretaker when she needs care and this situation was very difficult for me. For one thing, it broke my heart to see my sweet mother suffering and incapacitated. Second, I was called on to make her my priority and completely shift my schedule to tend to her needs. I’m in no way complaining; just explaining.

After three days I was exhausted both emotionally and physically and I felt like I was getting sick. In meditation that Saturday morning, something wonderful and much needed happened. Like a lightning bolt, I received the profound clarity that:

I Am the Decision Maker for My Life and I Get to Choose!

In that moment, I took my power back. I was once again on top of my game, I was empowered and committed to moving forward in a state of alignment. I felt transformed and was filled with appreciation for that amazing shift.

After meditation that morning, I asked myself, “OK, then, if I’m the Decision Maker for my Life, what do I choose in this situation?” This is the list I wrote that day:

*I choose to stay well.

*I choose to BE strong.

*I choose to move through this experience with ease and grace.

*I choose to trust that everything is unfolding perfectly.

*I choose to feel good even under these conditions.

And it worked! As I moved forward, whenever I started to feel sad or overwhelmed, I simply re-affirmed these choices and clicked back into my power.

I continue to have many opportunities to remind myself that I’m the decision maker for my life. And I can tell you that accepting the power and responsibility that come with truly being the decision maker for my life aligns me with bold, empowered choices as well as bold, empowered actions.

Since you’re the Decision Maker for Your Life, what do you choose?

Imaging And Personal Power

The ultimate personal power is imaging your goal at a deep mental level, and letting the power loose. Other than that, all else is just spinning “your physical wheels”. Meditation, hypnosis, self-hypnosis, goal oriented art like vision boards are all part of it. But, if you do not have a definite goal in your mind you want to achieve, you really are just spinning your physical wheels in a shallow way.

If you genuinely want to get anywhere, you must do what counts. You must take direct and powerful deep action. You must get down to the grits and sweat of where the power is, and it is where you least expect it. It is a reserve deep within yourself, your mind, your spirit, your personal genesis. What I mean by your personal genesis is what you really do want at the deepest level. Not just desires like money, home or whatever, but your deepest goals in your heart, soul and spirit.

I can only give this advice: Persist in your visualization and do not care if it goes to plan, as long as you make the goal you want to achieve genuinely. Only the most genuine of losers want things to go too closely to plan and quit when they do not, anyway. Remember what I wrote above about “spinning your physical wheels in a shallow way”. After all, too much effort is worse than none at all at times because it is like burning out a motor in neutral with full gas applied, if you get what I mean. Meditation for the sake of meditation without a genuine goal, spiritual, physical or otherwise is like this. Why do you think so many in meditation get that powerful understanding that a goal is needed after meditating like this for many years in neutral until they realize the reality of the situation anyway?

Look, some will understand, some will not. Indeed, though, consider this, meditation without a goal of any sort except to blank the mind will just be that, a blank slate without any achievement. Personal power comes through a genuine goal and objective however you look at it. That is the reality of the situation, even God and existence have a goal: The creation of the Universe, and that is always active, do you see my point to the extreme, now. On the other hand, the devil or Satan does not have a genuine goal except to bring everything down, destroy and steal personal power. Get it? So, start by imaging your genuine goal, and persist in it as God persists in creating the universe and existence and you will achieve. Actually, you cannot help but achieve if you really want the goal because persistence is power when done right, persistence is neutral lethargy when done wrong. This article and myself, your writer encourage the right use of persistence and that wraps up this article on imaging and personal power neatly.

Learning to Enjoy Every Minute Of Your Life

Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored. We often get so caught up with our busy lives that we tend to forget how important it is to truly live in and experience each and every moment. We live for the big and exciting things while appreciating little things at the same.

To be happy, we need have a quality life and a balance among work and friends and family. Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. With me, what you see is what you get. Yes, call me naive, but I love life. I am happy, and for that, I make no apologies.

Trust yourself. If you’re happy, if you’re feeling good, then nothing else matters. Don’t waste a minute not being happy. Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks.

We overlook the seemingly meaningless, for the something meaningful. And we live for the big things, and not for today. Do what you’ve been dreaming of doing. Enjoy every moment. And follow your heart completely. And do it all while you still have the chance.

It is common to assume the happiness of this life is more important that the happiness of future lives, but if we consider more carefully we shall see that the happiness of future lives must be more important because the happiness of this life is brief whereas future lives are many and long. We work so hard and put so much effort into securing happiness for ourselves later on this life, but it makes more sense to work as hard as we can to prepare for future lives.

If we are to respond to life’s difficulties with a positive or peaceful mind they would not be problems for us; indeed we may even come to regard them as challenges or opportunities for spiritual growth. So, despite the delusion of anger, for example, views other people as intrinsically bad, but there is no such thing as an intrinsically bad person. This shows that in itself ice cream is neither delicious nor disgusting.

That is why I am not affected with what other people say. I am happy because I am myself and my kids love me. I am very happy also especially when I see my old friends way back in high school. It’s easy to impress me. I don’t need a fancy party to be happy. Just good friends, good food, and good laughs.

I’m happy. I’m satisfied. I’m content. Life is beautiful. What about you?

How to Create Perfection Out of Your Imperfections

I remember when my Dad wanted us to change schools that would prepare us well for O-levels under the University of London. So what were the imperfections I had to perfect? How would this article help anybody to do that? Read on to find out.

I was in grade 9 and wanted to be admitted into that very grade in a good standard English medium school.

Dad figured out locating a good English medium school. We had to give admission tests before we got admitted. When that day arrived, my sisters and I were stuck in a big traffic jam so that Dad couldn’t proceed on the way in our car.

We were already twenty minutes late when we arrived at the desired location.

Now this school really emphasized on English. After we were given the question papers, my sister who was trying to get into grade 8 chose an essay on “Your Favorite Book” while I chose the topic, “Books and Reading”.

The big blow came in at the end of the test while we were waiting for the results. My sister and I were both given chits of paper that read grade 8. I was a bit confused. But I soon realized that I didn’t make it into grade 9.

According to the teachers there, my essay did not have flow and coherence as my sister’s did.

I got so bogged down that I cried all the way back and for the rest of the day into the night. I wept into the night falling asleep.

Seeing my condition, my father decided to admit us to another school where we wouldn’t require admission tests and I promptly got into grade 9.

I struggled with the English course all along. Sometimes the essays I wrote were good and sometimes not so good. This way I ended up with a “C” in the English course in my O-levels. On the other hand, my sister got a prompt “A” when she appeared in her O-levels.

So you see I was imperfect in the English language. When I went to the university, I worked really hard and tried to find every possible way to excel in the English language. And I made it. I got an “A”.

Then as the years went by, I had to write CV’s, Statement of Purpose and other documents that required skills in English when I applied abroad. I also had to appear in TOEFL in which I excelled.

Fast forward to the present, I can write effortlessly in English now. It takes me only several minutes to write articles or plot a story or write the skeleton of a self-help eBook on a topic that speaks to me.

The child in me that wept in those early years because of her imperfection in the English language has finally won. She is happy with the progress and milestones she has covered.

This way with the required effort, perseverance and determination any person can master perfection out of their imperfections. I am a living example of that. So when I say it is possible, I mean it really is.

Make Yourself Great Again

Do you ever stop and think what it might take to make you great again? Let’s start with personality traits. Some say personality is inherited, but in reality these traits are developed individually through behavior exhibited over and again. It’s funny how many of us can “see the speck in someone’s eye, but fail to see the log in our own eye.” What this is saying is before you criticize another person’s behavior, understand how your actions might be stimulating this person’s reactions. It is a value to be concerned, but don’t react and berate what you observe. Develop the practice of offering others caring responses to behaviors appearing offensive. Don’t judge, focus on what you see, and express concern. Adjustment is personal; it develops your abilities to offer help to others.

A child’s dream becomes a young man’s passion. This passion creates career decisions through mid-life and into older age. The rockets are firing from the start, some misfire, but the engine never quits. The drive for a career begins a journey fraught with disappointment and elation, failure and success, hurt and satisfaction. But most importantly, at the end of the journey, accomplishment, pride, integrity, and dignity are the driver’s results. These are learned skills; if they have not been developed, start now to reorganized and make corrections to facilitate productive development.

Maintaining control and being in charge is a task requiring information, understanding, and a willingness to abide by these behavior directives. Information raises your awareness, understanding guides you to create a plan of action, and taking action is your energy, desire, and dedication for managing to the best of your ability. You are in the driver’s seat when you are actively thinking and managing yourself. With God as your co-pilot, you are on a winning team.

Learning is a process, a continuous event with no end. As you engage others, listen, observe, and absorb positive, productive information. These are basic elements of learning. Once received and acknowledged as beneficial, a level of understanding wraps the package, and prepares it for implementation. Once put in action, assessment and evaluation indicate value and cement learning experiences.

Others observe your actions and behavior. “Perception, the truth as you see something, but not as is really is,” often leads to judgment calls. Your thoughts are internal controls. They direct your actions and behavior. Positive, productive, and inoffensive thoughts direct behavior that may be well intended, supportive, and loyal. Done successfully, they produce behaviors that are efficient, maintain relationships, and effect memorable results. No better sign of loyalty exists.

If depression sets in, you are likely sensing darkest moments. Depression is like riding a roller coaster headed down from its highest peak. Putting on the brakes only gets you stuck at the bottom. Allowing the decent, the bottom is reached with momentum carrying you back up. Don’t put the brakes on when distracted by negative thoughts. Substitute positive thought of what you can do. Eventually the roller coaster comes to a platform. Your choice: get off or go for another ride. Choose wisely.

Advice or direction offered in written or spoken communication can provide legitimate tools for change or adjustment. Thoughts process information, gain understanding of its meaning, and gets you ready for action. The information and understanding helps you know where you are going and to identify purpose. Action is a personal decision based on desire for exploration, accomplishment of a specific goal, and reward for achieving a productive and desired outcome. Be selective and understand your choices.

Life’s journey is the “first wonder of the world.” Wondering what tomorrow may bring; wondering if success will result; wondering if this is the correct path! A need to be strong, wise, and in control guides you through suggestions and ideas. You may stumble and fall, but faith and belief encourages you, provides strength to get up, and moves you to continue. Determination and drive erase wonders and guides us over the finish line! Trust faith, believe in yourself, and gallop on!

Six Morning Rituals That Help to Kick Off a Good Start Into Every Day

Have you ever thought of some wonderful morning rituals to help you to give a good start into every single day? If your day starts off fine, chances are it will end off super good as well. Well, you are the driver of your days and nothing is as good as performing a few morning rituals to make a great start into your days. So what are some of these rituals? Read on to find out.

The rituals I am about to mention take less than an hour. So I recommend them daily for your greatest advantage. Here goes:

1) A Small Prayer

Start off your day saying a small prayer. Include in it what your desired elements are for the day that you would like to come to fruition. Include praying for your family and yourself and also two extra great persons in your life whom you love. That way you are bound to feel good and have a good morning start.

2) A Meditation Exercise

The meditation exercise does not have to be extensive. Just breathe in and out 20 times or as much as possible initially and then extend it to 20 times or more.

3) Left Hand Writing Ritual

With your left hand, date in a notebook and start writing with your left hand the following statement:

I am getting ahead in life step by step one day at a time.

Now this is a powerful exercise as well. Because you cannot write quickly and steadily with your left hand, you will always be aware of what you are writing and it will fixate in your mind, making your statement a reality.

4) 15 seconds of positive thoughts

Try to come up with powerful positive thoughts and dwell upon them for 15 seconds. Here are a few to help you:

a) Every day in every way I am getting better, better and better.

b) My life is a great adventure.

c) I love the way just as I am.

d) I have an abundance of energy and I am of great vibes to others.

e) Wealth and prosperity flow easily towards me.

f) I go higher and stronger with life’s challenges.

5) A Gratitude Journal

Keep a gratitude journal by your bedside and every morning write five things you are grateful for in your life. Now why is that a powerful exercise? It allows you to count the blessings in your life. The more you find them, the more they flow into your life.

6) A Short Positive Content Self-Help eBook

Instead of reading news in the morning, read a short positive content self-help eBook and fill your soul and mind with energy and vigor. I promise it will do you a lot of good instead of reading news which contains a whole lot of negative content all the time.

All the six rituals are terrific and make a great start into your day, The positivity will exude from you and others you come in touch with will catch your vibes and feel positive too. So make it a point to carry out all the six rituals under an hour every morning. That way not only you become happy but wealthy as well full of rich thoughts plus you are off to great start into your mornings as each single day passes by.